My heart grieves for Mark Driscoll. If you know anything about the enneagram, I am fairly confident Mr. Driscoll is an 8. Eights are powerful, leaders, visionaries, and its my way or the highway. They deny their vulnerability and need to dominate others. They need to admit weakness. (Summary of Alice Fryling’s thoughts in Conversations magazine)
My frustration with Mark Driscoll’s situation is that he publicly has admitted to his sins and invited accountability. Was it all perfect? No, of course not, ministry is messy inside and out. Driscoll recently resigned his post as Lead pastor and shared that he and his family have had to move multiple times and his children had rocks thrown at them. Like many of you, I am sure you can share stories where you have had to deal with an 8. I understand what it means to be verbally abused, intimidated, tossed aside and had your expectations squelched and diminished. You can understand the desire for justice and to be avenged. Many pastors and former staff have aired their complaints publicly and privately. But Mr. Driscoll seemed to have tried to be repentant and to make adjustments. It appears as if he was trying to represent his true self and not his false self. This is difficult for a person who used today’s technology to its fullness in order to sow his message and now is being judged by the same consumers who drank deep of his videos, books, and tweets. (He reportedly had almost half a million on twitter)
As each of us follows the way of Jesus, we are reminded life’s twists and turns can be a great leveler. Whatever your enneagram number, status of life, area of ministry and service we need to remember to be honest with our ‘true self’ to try to adjust our life to what Nouwen encourages us to live a life that is irrelevant. Perhaps the tension with Mark Driscoll is that he had become too relevant to himself and his ministry. Mr. Nouwen lived out his words as he gave up notable positions and went to live with disabled adults.
I am reminded of the words of another 8 who wore camel hair and ate crunchy locusts and said of his messianic cousin, ‘I must decrease that you (Christ) may increase.” May we all seek to be more of an ‘irrelevant self’.
Mr. Driscoll I hope you find the Lord of the Wilderness and rest in Him!